I was tested and mostly I failed! Failed to see what was really happening.  The devil is something and he tricked me…into getting upset (again).  I LET him steal my peace. NOW, I’m on guard.
Here’s the sitch:
My hubby & I recently attended a series of marriage enrichment sessions.  To give props it is called “Laugh Your Way to a better Marriage”.  At the last session, a point regarding household chores was brought up in the small group discussion. Specifically laundry and why when we (wives) do it, they (husbands) don’t put theirs away.  Some of the ladies leave it at the bottom of the stairs, some in the middle of the room. I leave it in the laundry room in a basket.
Fast forward to the other night.  My husband says, “I’ve been really thinking about that laundry discussion.  Why should I put it away? It seems to me that since you’re washing it, by not putting away you are leaving the task unfinished.  What if I mowed the lawn and left the grass clipping for you to clean up?”
For some of you, right now would be a really good time to breathe and stop shouting expletives at my husband.
I thought my head would EXPLODE!  WHAT?! I’M LEAVING MY TASK UNFINISHED?!!!  I could hardly string two coherent words together – which was good, because some very unloving and unkind things would have come out of my mouth!
Who controls my feelings? ME – not my husband or the stupid things he says, not the devil who is always trying to cause strife.
We had to leave to pick up out youngest, I was pretty much mute the whole time.  I did say that I would no longer leave my “tasks” unfinished (what I did not say was, that was because I would NEVER do his laundry again)!  I also said it would be fine if he just mowed 1/3 of the lawn and did not bother to do anything for anyone else.  I can be fluent in sarcasm sometimes – I wanted him to see how absurd I thought he sounded. Also my statement was pretty passive aggressive and not loving – I’m a work in progress!
After we were quiet for about 15 minutes he said, “Aren’t you going to talk to me at all?”  I replied, “I don’t want to say something hurtful, something I’ll regret”.
His response…….”Oh, that’s real nice. You are making a big deal out of this and I was only JOKING. But you lost it”.
Joking? What? REALLY?
I’m not sure if he was joking or figured he better start back pedaling – either way I was NOT happy with him.
I replied, “If you were really joking why didn’t you say so as soon as you saw how upset I was?  I’m so disappointed that you would want to do that to me.”
His retort was I’m thinking about my answer because I don’t want to say anything I might regret – hmmm – passive aggressive at its finest.
I told him I was glad he was considering his words and appreciated the fact that he did not want to hurt me.  I really did mean it – I wasn’t falling back in to sarcasm mode.
Whhheww…sorry that story was so long!  But I had to tell you that, so I could tell you this:
In the past I would have blown-up, said ugly things and stayed angry for a long time.  This time, I mostly kept my mouth in check & I realized, after about an hour, that the devil was having a heyday!
Acts 3:19a (MSG)
19a “Now it’s time to change your ways! Turn to face God so he can wipe away your sins, pour out showers of blessing to refresh you.
Where was God?  He was there calling me to be quiet, calling me to be love.  Giving me free will to behave in a way that honors him or NOT. 
While I’m sorry I didn’t do the right thing right away, I’m glad I’m not who I once was.  I’m glad I can “see” what’s happening.
So did I really fail?  Not if you learn from me
Proverbs 3:21-22 (AMP)
21 My son, let them not escape from your sight, but keep sound and godly Wisdom and discretion, 22 And they will be life to your inner self, and a gracious ornament to your neck (your outer self).
Your 1,2,3 my friends:
#1 Seek peace not strife!
#2 It is not EASY, if it was everyone would do it!
#3 Do it anyway, easy is so overrated!
Peace Out – Mindi

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