Peace and Love and Family Gatherings and yes, Bingo!

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This was originally published on December 1, 2011 and it has been re-posted at least once.
I’m making a few changes and sharing it yet again because the message truly is timeless.

Seriously, I love Facebook! Stop everything and read this now so you’ll be ready for the holidays.  I saw this years ago and here is the Pure Grace take on it. 

“Here’s an ingenious method you can use when facing difficult family members. My friend fills a Bingo card with all the inappropriate things she anticipates her family will say. Instead of being shocked by their words, she smiles. When the visit is over, she revisits her Bingo card and crosses out her correct guesses. If she gets a Bingo, she treats herself to something fun like a pedicure.”

While part of me is sad that this is necessary, most of me is laughing out loud!  We have ALL been there, had folks at family gatherings say the most ridiculous or even hurtful things. Side note: even if I had had this card at a recent event I would not have earned a bingo because I could have never anticipated the doosie I got “hit” with.

Some people will never change – DON’T be some people.  Be the change you want to see!

Life on Purpose looks like change for the better, it looks like step by step transformation. Sometimes to change things, we need to change things! HUH? Change the actual event to change the dynamics.

Example: If I host a family gathering that is usually hosted by someone else, I’m already changing things up quite a bit.  If I change things up, then I’m praying that the usual roles that people fall into won’t happen because the scenario is different.  Are you following me? Drastic change requires drastic measures.  Complete upheaval of typical patterns.

I think the bingo is another way to seek the silver lining.  Track records speak volumes, so if person X’s track record shows that they typically say or do some nice not things, I don’t think it is negative to expect it.  I want to be prepared; I want you to be prepared.  So beforehand pray, make up your bingo card and pray some more.  Think about what responses you can have in your pocket.  I don’t want to be hurtful or rude, even when someone is hurtful or rude to me. 

Repay no one evil for evil, but take thought for what is honest and proper and noble [aiming to be above reproach] in the sight of everyone. If possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Romans 12:17-18 (AMP) 

A gratitude mindset will be your best friend in these types of situations. Why can I be thankful? Change the I have to into I get to.

Since we are silver lining seekers ’round these parts this needs a little more unpacking.  If one side of the card is not nice – make the other side nice.  I know that I know, that I know it can be very difficult to stay positive and merciful and generous and kind when it seems like everyone around you is not.  But if we put out enough goodness, we’re bound to get some back! Hopefully.

So how about complements you may receive on the other side of the card, about you, your children, the dish you brought. You might be surprised. I bet we miss some of the nice things that are said because we get focused on the not-so-nice. I’m raising my hand here too. We are being built, that means work in progress.

Work at getting along with each other and with God. Otherwise you’ll never get so much as a glimpse of God. Make sure no one gets left out of God’s generosity. Keep a sharp eye out for weeds of bitter discontent. A thistle or two gone to seed can ruin a whole garden in no time. Hebrews 12:14-15 (MSG) 

Lets pray: Dear God, I know you love me.  I know your opinion of me is what counts THE MOST.  Keep your arms around me and remind me when I forget. Please help me keep the garden of my heart weed-free.  Amen.


Start forming those healthy habits, those gratitude mindsets. Think about all the things you get to do and be thankful!

Hmmm, the peace, love, I’m so thankful 1,2,3?
#1 Be prepared.
#2 Laugh about it.
#3 God loves you the most!

Peace, Love & BINGO!

Peace and love look a lot like self-care ♥ our digital Renewed, Refreshed, Recharged devo is the perfect match!

How about a serving of Forgiveness to go along with your peace and love?

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Mindi Huebner is a professional conversationalist, crazy forgiver and Co-Founder of Pure Grace, LLC. Mindi is scandalously obsessed with leaving people and things better than she found them. If you think LOVE is always the answer, join her as she writes about her road trips with God. If you don’t think love is always the answer, join her anyway. Go.Be.Love

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