UPDATE: Reposting this 11.24.14 just in time for Turkey Day
Gotta love Facebook! I’m sorry I did not see this before Thanksgiving to share with all of you BUT at least it is in time for Christmas.
“Here's an ingenious method you can use when facing difficult family members. My friend fills a Bingo card with all the inappropriate things she anticipates her family will say. Instead of being shocked by their words, she smiles. When the visit is over, she revisits her Bingo card and crosses out her correct guesses. If she gets a Bingo, she treats herself to something fun like a pedicure.”
While part of me is sad that this is necessary, most of me is laughing out loud! We have ALL been there, had folks at family gatherings say the most ridiculous or even hurtful things…side note: even if I had had this card at a recent event I would not have earned a bingo because I could have never anticipated the doosie I got “hit” with…
Some people will never change – DON’T be “some people”. Be the change you want to see!
I’ve been thinkin’ on this quite a bit.
Here is what I’ve decided - to change things, I need to change things! HUH? Change the event to change the dynamics.
Example: If I host a family gathering that is usually hosted by someone else, I’m already changing things up quite a bit. If I change things up, then I’m praying that the usual roles that people fall into won’t happen because the scenario is different. Are you following me? To really make drastic change requires drastic measures. Complete upheaval of typical patterns.
I think the “bingo” is sort of a way to put the silver lining on the rain cloud. Track records speak volumes, so if person X’s track record shows that they typically say or do some nice not things, I don’t think it is negative to expect it. I want to be prepared; I want you to be prepared. So before hand pray, make up your bingo card & pray some more. Think about what responses you can have "in your pocket". I don’t want to be hurtful or rude, even when someone is hurtful or rude to me.
17 Repay no one evil for evil, but take thought for what is honest and proper and noble [aiming to be above reproach] in the sight of everyone. 18 If possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Romans 12:17-18 (AMP)
Anywho, since I’m a glass is half-full kind of girl, I feel like this needs a little more unpacking. If one side of the card is “not nice” – I’d like to see the other side be “nice”. I know from personal experience it can be very difficult to stay positive & merciful & generous & kind when it seems like everyone around you is not. But if I put out enough goodness, I’m bound to get some back! Hopefully.
So how about complements on the other side of the card, about you, your children, the dish you brought…you might surprise yourself. I bet you miss some of the nice things because you get focused on the not-so-nice. (It happens to the best of us, promise!)
14 Work at getting along with each other and with God. Otherwise you'll never get so much as a glimpse of God. 15 Make sure no one gets left out of God's generosity. Keep a sharp eye out for weeds of bitter discontent. A thistle or two gone to seed can ruin a whole garden in no time. Hebrews 12:14-15 (MSG)
Dear God,I know you love me. I know your opinion of me is what counts THE MOST. Keep your arms around me and remind me when I forget. Please help me keep the garden of my heart weed-free. Amen.
Hmmm, the 1,2,3?
#1 Be prepared
#2 Laugh about it
#3 God loves you the most!
Peace & Love & BINGO!
Mindi Huebner is a business owner, professional conversationalist and crazy forgiver. Mindi is scandalously obsessed with leaving people and things better than she found them. If you think LOVE is always the answer, join her as she writes about her road trips with God at www.backrowfaith.com. If you don’t think love is always the answer, join her anyway. Go.Be.Love